Aslaam alaikum shaikhProphet Muhmaad ( sws ) married Aisha ( ra ) at 6 and consummated at 9 But I heard orientalist accusation that Prophet Muhmaad ( sws ) used to perform thighing and used to fondle with Aisha ( ra ) when she couldn’t bear sexual intercourse before the age of 9.Is it true and what is the ruling on this
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah, and that Muhammad, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, is His slave and Messenger.
There is absolutely no basis for what you have mentioned; it is a pure lie. Rather, what is confirmed is what ‘Aa’ishah, may Allaah be pleased with her, said: “The Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, married me when I was six years old [i.e. conducted the contract], and he consummated the marriage with me when I was nine years old.” [Al-Bukhari, Muslim, Ahmad, Abu Daawood, At-Tirmithi, An-Nasaa’i, Ibn Maajah] [This is the wording of An-Nasaa’i’]
Therefore, the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, did not consummate the marriage with her until she reached the age of nine years old. When she was nine, she was a full woman as she grew up very well. But he, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, did not consummate the marriage with her before that; no.
As regards enjoying a young wife who cannot yet bear intercourse, by touching her and foreplay, then this is permissible as long as it does not harm the wife; if it harms her, then it is not permissible. This harm includes psychological harm, if the wife is too young to understand the woman’s relationship with the man.
There are other conditions and details, but it is not the place to mention them in this Fatwa.
Allah knows best.