Sorry for this rude photo; But some of us spit into the well of our brothers’ satisfaction. You find a person talking about the details of his life as if it were normal, and then someone comes to him and spoils his joy, disturbs the peace of his days, and kindles in his chest words and questions that would not have occurred to him.
Sorry for this rude photo; But some of us spit into the well of our brothers’ satisfaction. You find a person talking about the details of his life as if it were normal, and then someone comes to him and spoils his joy, disturbs the peace of his days, and kindles in his chest words and questions that would not have occurred to him.
One of my close friends complained to me about his lack of acceptance of his wife, and he started talking about her negligence and a host of belittling qualities that make her useless.
I know my friend; We go out to a restaurant, but he does not stipulate it. We travel and he does not inspect the place, and he is not tempted by the details. He is tolerant and negligent, and I know from his previous conversation that his wife is of good character and has a good disposition. So what happened?
I tried to take him back to the root of the problem. Every time he talked about his present, I brought him back to the past – so that I could understand the secret of his change. I am sure that the well of his contentment had turned sour that he was no longer tormented by it.
I found what I was looking for when he said this situation. He said the beginning of a conversation between me and a friend, who asked me to photograph the cover of a book we talked about.
He says: I randomly photographed the book for him, and the cover appeared, and around it was part of the desk. On the desk was a cardboard tea cup.
His friend said: A cardboard cup? Are you single now? Is your wife with her family?
He said: No, why the question?
He said – the shocking word -: A cartoon tea cup! Why did you get married?
Other than you, their wives prepare delicious things for them while they are searching. You are not few. Do not humiliate yourself, lest they become accustomed to your humiliation.
He said: By God, I did not enjoy eating or drinking after that, and I began to look at my wife as a devil, and whenever she asked me for something, I said to myself: Why does she ask when she has been negligent in my rights?
I tried to disassemble the idea in his mind, and I think he was convinced.
But for God’s sake; If you see someone working 16 hours and he is satisfied; Do not say: Where are your rest times?
And if you see someone who is satisfied with his salary, Do not say: How will you do if an emergency strikes you?
If you see someone who is satisfied with his partner, do not raise his aspirations.
We are in a time of anxiety and blind eye. Beware of spitting into the well of contentment.
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Writer: Badr Al Marhi