The phenomenon of emotional separation, which is the case of the marital relationship, where the spouses feel the death of feelings between them, despite their presence under one roof.
Presentation:
Praise be to God, Lord of the worlds, and with him we seek the help of God and peace be upon our Prophet Muhammad and his family and companions.
One of the most dangerous family problems facing societies is the phenomenon of divorce directly, but in our present time, family scholars and consultants appeared more dangerous than the phenomenon of divorce, which is the phenomenon of emotional separation, which is a state of marital relationship where the spouses feel the death of feelings between them despite their presence under one roof.
The concept of emotional separation:
It is the abandonment of the husband to his wife, whether he is a migrant in the emotional relationship or in the conversation, and the loss of affection and psychological housing between the spouses with the marriage of other marital rights such as alimony and securing housing, so that people appear to be intended for the marital relationship and the reality in contradiction.
Study questions:
1- Is emotional separation a substitute for divorce between the spouses?
2- What is the effect of emotional separation in children’s behavior?
3- Is emotional separation as a result of ill -treatment between the spouses?
4- Are health factors related to emotional separation?
5- Is the cultural difference between the spouses related to the emotional separation between them?
6- Does the economic level have a role in emotional separation?
The manifestations of emotional separation:
1- One of the manifestations of ((emotional separation)) is the absence of dialogue between the spouses and what is called marital silence.
2- Feeling regret to link to the other party.
3- Neglecting, selfishness, and indifference with the needs, requirements, and mother of each party.
4- Searching for alternatives (the extravagance in the follow -up of television channels and staying up outside the home suspicious relationships for some.
5- Withdrawing from the matrimonial bed and the absence of kindness and softness between the two partners.
Reasons for the emergence of emotional separation:
1- The apathy of love. 2- Poor sexual compatibility. 3- Psychological reasons.
(A) The reasons for the emergence of emotional separation by the husband
1- Vinegar of the physical husband. 2- The threat of divorce. 3- Emotional husband’s miserliness.
4- The husband’s lifestyle. 5- Sexual impotence. 6- Not respecting the wife’s rights.
7- Watch porn movies
(B) The reasons for the emergence of emotional separation by the wife:
1- The wife’s appearance and decoration 2- The wife’s lifestyle
3- Not respecting the rights of the husband 4- The wife’s disturbances
5- The wife’s neglect of the husband after having the first child 6- stubbornness
The effects of emotional separation:
Emotional separation is one of the clearest signs that indicate the expiration of marriage between the two parties as long as it is not legitimized in its treatment, and in this case in this case is the last link in the series of marital life that may end with actual divorce, but some prefer to bear its suffering and the nation either in order to preserve the children from being lost or in order to preserve the external form of the family in society because society usually denounces divorce.
Tips and solutions in treating the problem of emotional separation (1):
1- Alerting the wife to the importance of receiving and kissing the husband at the door.
2- The wife warns of direct reproach, as some husbands are criticism.
3- The wife emphasizes the patience to address the husband’s mistakes, and the opportunity to align the husband.
4- The wife guides to show her femininity to her husband, to see, hear and smell what is pleased.
5- The wife directs the initiative to listen to her husband, the words of love, God, and gentle feelings.
6- The wife advises to be the owner of the big heart that overlooks the husband’s lapses and works to treat her in a beautiful and elegant style.
7- Warning the wife of the deadly trio: criticism, remorse, blame, and comparison.
8- He assures the wife to express to the husband her feelings and emotions towards her husband.
Tips and solutions in treating the problem of emotional separation (2):
1- The husband reminds when he returns to the house by initiating peace on the wife, and if she does not receive it, then search for her and accept her and include her chest.
2- The husband is asked to praise the appearance and elegance of his wife, no matter how modest.
3- He assures the husband to tell his wife when he wants to leave the house.
4- It is nice for the husband to ask the surprise of his wife to do some of the work that she used to do, such as arranging the bed and cleaning the bedroom.
5- He asks the husband to hear his wife the word “I love you”.
6- The husband warns in the event that he holds the hand of his wife not to relax his hand or leave his wife’s hand until she relaxes her hand or leaves his hand.
7- The husband states that he buys a small gift for his wife and introduces her from time to time.
8- He asks the husband to surprise his wife with love messages or poetry verses that he will flirt with.
The consequences for the family relationship in the problem of emotional separation:
1- Many family problems are found by a psychological problem.
2- Emotional separation leads to legal divorce if this problem is not solved.
3- Emotional separation in its advanced stages may lead to the deviation of the spouses, due to the lack of solving the problem from its roots, and thus the problem is complicated.
4- Emotional separation from psychological matters that are difficult to deal with and coexist with.
5- Relations between the spouses are built on the basis of affection, mercy, love and communication between the two parties, not neglect and leaving the other party.
6- The harm of emotional separation is not only on the spouses, but also extends to the children and is reflected in their psychological health.
7- Emotional separation is a cause of hatred and hatred between spouses and aversion.
Study recommendations:
1- Establishing educational courses for couples on the effect of emotional separation on children psychologically and behaviorally.
2- Establishing awareness and guiding programs for those who are about to marry that enable them to face the pressures of life, conflicts and tensions that lead to separation or divorce.
3- Preparing various media programs concerned with family relations.
4- Putting educational materials in schools and universities concerned with guidance, reform and marital counseling.
5- Raising the level of culture among husbands reduces the impact of emotional separation.
6- The research centers are concerned with this social problem by motivating social researchers in finding effective solutions to reduce the phenomenon.
7- Activating guidance programs to be known for the reasons for emotional separation and excitement on children.
We ask God Almighty to compose between the hearts of husbands and to make among them affection and mercy.
Assigning a research in the material of social relations in the family – with a specialty (family reform).
Prepared by: Ahmed Khaled Al -Otaibi.