Question
there are family differences between my father and my paternal aunt to the point of breaking up between us. Is it a sin when we know that the aunt still continues to visit us?
Response text
Praise be to Allah.
Praise be to Allah
There is no doubt that the severing of family ties is a major sins. The numerous texts of the Book and of the Sunnah which order the maintenance of family ties indicate the seriousness of their rupture according to our Tolerant Law. Indeed, among the most important objectives of this law are the strengthening of social cohesion and the consolidation of the bonds of franternity within them. Allah the Transcendent and Most High says: (those) who unite what Allah has commanded to unite, fear their Lord and fear unhappy accountability.(Quran, 13:21). the prophetic Sunnah conveys this serious threat concerning the breaking of family ties. According to Abu Hurayrah (PAa), the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace be upon him) said: “Surely Allah created the creatures. When He finished them, the relatives stood up and said:
– Here is a position which the occupiers ask for Your protection against the rupture!
– Yes! Are you not happy that I maintain the one who maintains you and breaks with the one who breaks you?
– Yes!
– I’ll grant you that.
The Messenger of Allah continues to say: read, if you wish: If you turn away, do you not risk sowing corruption on earth and breaking your kinship ties? These are they whom Allah has cursed, deafened, and blinded their eyes.Don’t they meditate on the Quran? Or are there padlocks on their hearts? (Quran, 47: 22-24) (Reported by al-Bokhari, 5987 and Muslim, 2554).
If people thought about the causes of the breakdown of kinship ties, they would find nothing but fragments of this fleeting life, things that are of no use on the day of Resurrection. The rupture can still result from intrigues which are inspired to them by Satan to sow hatred and the enmity between them for futile rasions which do not deserve to attract their attention. In addition, the Sharia orders the maintenance of family ties, even in the presence of a cause which could justify the contrary. She urges believers to transcend faults and treat themselves with forgiveness, leniency and leniency instead of identifying missteps and accumulating envy, hatred and jealousy.
According to Abou Haourayrah (PAa) a man said:
– “Messenger of Allah! I have parents that I maintain but they prefer to break up with me. I do them good but they mistreat me and I show leniency towards them but they react with rudeness?
– If you act like you said, you pretend you’re feeding them hot ashes. Surely Allah will not spare you his support as long as you continue to treat them as you do. (Reported by Muslim, 2558)
An-Nawawi says in his commentary on Muslim: “The term mall means hot ash and the expression wa yadjhaloun means: they are acting badly. The whole thing means: you act as if you were feeding them hot ashes. It is to compare the pain from which they suffer to that experienced by the one who eats hot ashes. He who does well incurs nothing. It is the others who bear the enormous sin that results from their breakup and their effort to harm (their parent). It is also said that the expression means: the good treatment you reserve for them is a way of inspiring them with shame, and of despising them by making them see the frequency of your good acts and the odious nature of their reaction. Allah knows it best. ”
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: The one who maintains his kinship properly is not the one who does so to respond to such an attitude, but rather the one who continues to treat his parents well even when they choose to do so. breaking. (Reported by al-Bokhari, 5991).
Dear brother,
These are the noble customs pronounced by Islam. No one should hesitate to stagmatize someone who breaks off his ties with his mother or sister. You are not permitted, dear author of the question, to come to an agreement with your father when he breaks up with his sister. On the contrary, you should continue to nurture your bond with your paternal aunt by treating her well and striving to reconcile her with your father as much as possible.