Asalaamu alaikum, My close relatives has asked me to marry their daughter. The daughter is from a village in pakistan while im from UK. I know Their daughter since we were children and me and my sister have seen her in hijab since a child. She is quiet and flees infront of non mahram. When she is at her married sisters house and men come she either goes back home or moves to a different room or moves aside and is dead quiet.( all of our houses are joined by walls so we can easily go to eachother houses without going into the streets etc). She wont speak if asked question infront of men but just nod yes or no.i have not even heard her voice since the last 4-5 years ive come here, i dont even know how she sounds. If she needs something from the bazaar she sends someone rather than herself. She prays 5 times a day, her family did not pray but she encouraged them now all the family pray aswell. She teaches poor neighbours children for free in their school work and tution which other people charge. She warns her family from buying her clothes for weddings since she does not attend weddings. I dont think she wears makeup. She looks after babies. My mother and sister like her,her sister in laws praise her. She can cook and clean and she is not known for getting into arguments rather she is known for helping cooling down arguments within her own family or her sister marriage. The problem is im the ONLY salafi. Generally speaking pakistanis are barelvis so are my family. I ONLY know she celebrates the mawlid. But her father believes awliya can help from dead, salafis are murtads. But hes a just old and ignorant who blindfollows what his peers tell him. he can be excused. I was thinking of marrying her then giving her dawah to salafiya slowly, even IF AND IF she commits major shirk. She would be escused for ignorance that too only scholars can make takfir thats my principle. So that nikah would still be valid as shes still a muslim before the takfir. What do you think
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah, and that Muhammad, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, is His slave and Messenger.
If this girl is known to be religious and has a good moral conduct, then marry her. The Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said: “…Choose the religious one you will prosper.” [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]
The Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, also said: “This world is a provision, and its best provision is a righteous wife.” [Muslim]
It is enough that she is a Muslim and she is not known to do any of the innovations that take a person out of the fold of Islam, and so on. The fact that some of her family have some corrupt beliefs or do not pray does not harm.
We advise you to pray the Istikhaarah prayer before marrying her so that Allah makes things easier for you. For more benefit on the Istikhaarah prayer, please refer to Fatwa 81434.
If the marriage is facilitated, then be keen on teaching her the religion and helping her attend circles of knowledge. You should also nurture her upon goodness so that you earn a great reward, because the person who guides people to do good will get the same reward as those who did it.
Allah knows best.