Salam, im a male 42, i live away from my wife in another country because of my work, i have been facing issues with erection and premature ejaculation, i have read about massaging penis and scortum with blackseed oil, to improve bloodflow to imrprove the erection quality, but never ejaculate as i tried to delay it qnd stop the massage without ejaculation for better sex with my wife, but during this massage i never think erotically, and just want to massage for the sake of quality erection. just confirm me even this is not allowed in islam, as i know very well that masturbation is haram, but since im not ejaculate, so to improve my bedroom life i am ding this..your earliest response is highly appreciated.JazakAllah khair.
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah, and that Muhammad, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, is His slave and Messenger.
First of all, we recommend that you look for a way to bring your wife to live with you.
The length of time that you, as a husband, are away from your wife may have an impact on your case. If you consult some specialists doctors, they may provide you with some guidelines or some useful drugs.
‘Usamah ibn Shareek, may Allaah be pleased with him, narrated that the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said: "O slaves of Allah! Seek treatment. Indeed, Allah has not sent down a disease except that He has sent down a cure for it, except death." [Ahmad and Ibn Maajah]
This act that you have asked about may be a means leading to masturbation, which is forbidden. In principle, it must be avoided, but if you need it, as you mentioned, for treatment and not for the purpose of pleasure and lust, then it is acceptable to resort to it, in our view.
Allah knows best.