Sermon: Reasons for divorce
Praise be to God, many good and blessed praises to Him, just as He loves and is pleased with our Lord, and I bear witness that there is no god but God alone with no partner, and I bear witness that Muhammad is His servant and Messenger, His chosen one, His friend, and the best of His creation. May God’s prayers and peace be upon him, his family and companions, and those who follow them in goodness until the Day of Judgment.As for what follows:
O people,Fear God with the right of piety, hold fast to Islam by the firmest handhold, and beware of sins. Your feet on fire cannot stand.
O blessed ones,Building a good family is one of the greatest things that Islam pays great attention to, and it pays great attention to it, which is to preserve it and work to improve it. Because the family is the first building block in building good societies.
One of the greatest threats to family building and exposing it to rifts and collapse is negligence in divorce, as divorce is a dissolution and dissolution of the marital bond, and a waste of the strict covenant. Divorce has increased in these times and has become widespread. Which threatens Muslim communities.
Servants of God,The word divorce is one of the words that brought tears to the eyes of husbands and wives, and terrified the hearts of sons and daughters. What a small word, but it is a great, great and dangerous word. How much divorce has destroyed the homes of Muslims, how much it has divided the reunification of girls and boys, how many ties it has severed among relatives, lovers, and relatives! What a sad hour, what a difficult and painful hour! The day the woman heard about her divorce, she stopped her tears, bid farewell to her husband, and stood at the door of her house. To cast the last glances at a house full of memories. What a great calamity that destroyed Muslim homes and separated girls and boys!
There has been a lot of divorce today when we lost a husband who takes care of our duties, when we lost morals and good conduct. A husband gets his wife today and takes her from her father’s house as dear, generous, laughing and happy, and returns her after a few days sad, crying, divorced, and humiliated!
Divorce has increased today when husbands belittle rights and duties, neglect trusts and responsibilities, stay up late until late hours, and lose the rights of wives, sons and daughters. The stranger laughs and the relative cries, the stranger is comforted and the beloved feels lonely.
There is a lot of divorce today when we lost a husband who forgives a mistake and covers shame and shame. When we lose a husband who fears God, fears God, respects God’s limits, and keeps covenants, the days that have passed, and the beautiful memories that have passed.
Divorce has increased today when we lost the righteous, obedient women who guarded the unseen with what God has preserved, when women became free of tongue, free rein, going out whenever they wanted and coming in whenever they wanted, going out and going to the markets, to forums and meetings, wasting the rights of husbands and daughters. What a great calamity.
Divorce has increased today when fathers and mothers interfere in the affairs of husbands and wives. The father follows his son in every small and big matter, and in every noble and lowly matter, and the mother interferes in her daughter’s affairs in every small and large, noble and lowly matter, until the matter ends in divorce and separation. Did they not know that whoever corrupts a wife against her husband or corrupts a husband against his wife, may God curse him?
O you who want a divorce, if your wife made you unhappy today, then she made you happy for days, and if she made you sad this year, then she made you happy for years.
Whoever wants a divorce,Beautiful patience; If the woman is bad to you, then perhaps God will bring forth from her good offspring that will please your eyes. A woman is with a husband whom she hurts, insults, humiliates, and pains him, so he is patient for the sake of God and seeks his reward from God, and knows that God is with him. It is only a matter of years until God will grant his eyes good offspring, and what do you know? Perhaps this woman who is hell for you today may be in a few days of peace and bliss.
The wise lawgiver desired to preserve the marriage contract, and commanded the husband to engage in good relations, even if he hated his wife. God Almighty said:O you who have believed, it is not lawful for you to inherit women by force, nor to prevent them from taking away part of what you have given them unless they come. with clear indecency, and live with them in a reasonable manner. If you hate them, perhaps you will hate a thing and God will put in it much good.(An-Nisa: 19), and God Almighty described the marriage contract as a strict covenant, and said:How can you take it, when some of you have given it to others, and they have taken from you a solemn covenant?(An-Nisa: 21), and the implication of its description as a strong covenant is that it requires obligation, continuity, housing, and stability. Accordingly, the spouses must resist everything that threatens this.
But if this is not the case, and life becomes impossible between the two; Due to the many disagreements that alienate hearts, divorce is the last solution. Therefore, the wise law considered it one of the most hated permissible things. That is: it is in the last rank of what is permissible in dividing the mandatory ruling.
Ibn Qudamah Al-Maqdisi says in this regard: “Perhaps the situation between the spouses has become corrupted, and the continuation of the marriage becomes pure corruption and harm due to the husband being obligated to provide maintenance and housing, and imprisoning the woman along with bad treatment and constant quarreling without benefit. This is required by a law that removes the marriage, so that the corruption resulting from it will be removed.”
And God Almighty says:And if they become separated, God will enrich each of his capacity, and God is All-Encompassing, All-Wise.﴾ [An-Nisa: 130], and this verse came after the verses calling for reconciliation in the event of disobedience of one of the spouses; Divorce was not legalized except after attempts to reconcile the spouses, when disagreements broke out between them. The basic principle of marriage is the continuation of marital life between the spouses.
Sheikh Al-Islam Ibn Taymiyyah said: “The basic principle regarding divorce is prohibition, but it is permitted to do so as much as is necessary, as was proven in the Sahih on the authority of Jabir, on the authority of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace: ((Satan places his throne on the water, then he sends out his squadrons, and the lowest of them is in the position of the one who is the most tempted. One of them comes and says: I did such-and-such, and he says: I did not do anything. He said: Then one of them comes and says: I did not leave him until I separated him from his wife. He said: So he brings him closer to him, and says: You are good.)).
May God bless you and me with the Qur’an and the Sunnah, and benefit me and you with the verses and wisdom they contain. I say this, and I ask God’s forgiveness for me and for you and for all other Muslims of every sin, so seek His forgiveness. Indeed, He is the Forgiving, the Merciful.
The second sermon
Reasons for divorce:
Praise be to God who sent down the Criterion to His servant so that he might be a warner to the worlds, and I bear witness that there is no god but God alone with no partner, that He is All-Aware and All-Seeing of His servants, and I bear witness that our Master and Prophet Muhammad is His servant and Messenger, sent him before the Hour as a bringer of good tidings and a warner, and a caller to God with His permission and an illuminating lamp. May God’s blessings and peace be upon him and his family and companions, may God bless him and his family and companions with abundant peace.As for what follows:
If we want to know the most important causes of divorce, the most important of them are the loss of rights and duties, the escalation of any difference in viewpoints, the escalation of discord and conflict, the failure of one party to submit to the other, and the forgetting of tolerance, neglect, and forgiveness. If each party is victorious with his family, parents, and siblings, then say peace to the family.
Hey couple,Homes are built on affection and mercy, and homes are not peaceful and reassured without them. If the standard of jealousy increases and becomes beyond what is necessary, beyond what is reasonable, and beyond what is acceptable, then things will lead to cracks and rupture. If the matter exceeds its limit, it will turn against it, and jealousy is a demand and is a sign of love. Trust and honesty between the two parties correct the course of jealousy, and losing them fuels the relationship between them.
Hey couple,Caring for the other party morally and sensually is one of the most important elements of strengthening the relationship. If one of the spouses finds that the other party does not care about him personally as much as the lover cares about his privacy, dimensions, and distinction, then he takes care of himself, his appearance, his clothing, and his adornment inside the house just as he cares about those outside it. He even cares about the matters the other cares about, helping him with them and helping him with them, then here the person imposes himself on the other party with his heart and mind. Otherwise, if he loses all dimensions of this care, he sees a loss. For the one who has strengthened his relationship with him, this will lead to a general separation from him and a general separation from the other party.
Anyone who meditates on the noble verses will notice that the word divorce every time comes followed by one of the descriptions of kindness and kindness. To indicate that divorced people, even if they are quarreling, and life between them seems impossible, they part ways willingly.
If the relationship reaches this religious path, both parties must be gentle and fair, adhering to the etiquette of divorce enjoined by Islam. We often see during the divorce proceedings quarrels, insults, and insults between the spouses, or their families, and this may reach the point of beating and fighting, or revealing the faults and disadvantages of each party in front of people and in the court arena. In order to justify the situation he has reached, and this is something that religion does not approve of, the spouses must comply with Islamic etiquette in divorce.
Husband,Be patient about what you are about to do. If you want a divorce, consult the scholars, go to the wise, seek out the virtuous and righteous people, ask them about what you are into, and take a word from them that will strengthen you and advice that will strengthen you.
If you want a divorce, seek help from God, and submit your needs to God. If you want a divorce, then follow the Sunnah of the Beloved of God, may God bless him and grant him peace. Divorce her once while she is in a state of purity during which she did not have intercourse with her. Do not divorce her while she is menstruating, for those are the limits of God:And whoever transgresses the limits of God has wronged himself.﴾ [Divorce: 1], and if you divorce her, divorce her once and not more.
Then know – may God have mercy on you – that God Almighty has commanded you to do something that He Himself began, saying:Indeed, God and His angels bless the Prophet. O you who have believed, bless him and grant him peace.(Al-Ahzab: 56).
O God, bless and grant peace, increase and bless your servant and Messenger Muhammad, his family, his wives, his descendants, his companions, and those who follow them in good deeds until the Day of Judgment. O God, honor Islam and Muslims, humiliate polytheism and polytheists, destroy the enemies of religion, and make this country safe and reassured, O God, and all other Muslim countries. Oh God, help those who support religion, and let down, O God, those who let down your faithful servants. Oh God, grant victory to the mujahideen who strive in your cause. Oh God, be their helper and helper, helper and supporter. Oh God, hasten their victory and relief, O Powerful, O Mighty. Oh God, turn the circles of evil on your enemy and their enemy.
Oh God, create harmony between every couple and create affection and mercy between them, and keep away from them troubles and annoyances and the causes of separation, conflict and discord. Oh God, make peace with spouses and offspring, and keep us away from every deceiver and destroyer.Our Lord, grant us from our wives and our offspring the comfort of our eyes and make us leaders for the righteous.﴿ [Al-Furqan: 74], ﴾Our Lord, give us good in this world and good in the Hereafter, and protect us from the torment of the Fire.﴾ [Al-Baqarah: 201]. Oh God, grant success to our imam in guiding you, and make his work please you, and grant success to all Muslim rulers to work according to your book and enforce your law, O Lord of Glory and Honor.
Servants of God,﴿Indeed, God commands justice, charity, and giving to relatives, and forbids indecency, abomination, and transgression. He exhorts you, so that you may remember.(Al-Nahl: 90).
So remember God, the Great and Majestic, and He will remember you, and thank Him for His favors and blessings, and He will increase you. And the remembrance of God is greater, and God knows what you do.