The wife and the fire of suspicion!
In a time when technology is accelerating and screens are crowded with black films and dramasSome wives are few, praise be to God, but as a matter of warning and prevention, the disease of doubt about the husband’s actions and behavior has crept up on them, a disease that begins from the influence of movies, from stories told due to negative attitudes from female friends, and from emotional emptiness, until it turns into suspicions that disturb the stability of the family and extinguish affection.
They are affected by what they see or hear about,She measures the husband’s actions during drama scenes, and his delay in returning home or being busy may be interpreted as a potential relationship. The point may reach the point of increasing the standard of suspicion, and with an instigation from Satan, to the desire to look at the mobile phone and search it, if it has not happened, so the mobile phone becomes a battlefield: searching, monitoring, and analyzing every message, in behaviors that destroy trust, and some of them do this out of undesirable jealousy towards their husband; This behavior bothers him, even if that was the intention.
Sharia law has set for us a clear approach that protects homes from collapse. Then God Almighty said:And do not spy﴾ [Al-Hujurat: 12] A definitive rule, and the basic principle for a Muslim is that he is free of obligation, and bad thoughts are forbidden from him; Because it is a door opened by Satan to separate spouses.
In order to avoid this behavior,If it occurs to one of the spouses to start observing God Almighty and following the Sunnah of His Messenger, then the principle is innocence and safety. Then, re-adjusting thinking, distinguishing between imagination and reality, strengthening self-confidence, and building a calm dialogue with the husband, in the event of suspicion and doubt entering, for any life situation that involves this issue, closing the doors of obsessions, reconsidering friendship and choosing a girlfriend who helps, and does not dramatize situations, and among the indicators that show the husband’s true behavior are his integrity, his prayers, his morals, his respect and concern for his wife and his family, all of which show that he is doing well and for good.
Perhaps some of the life applications that are a safety valve:
•A periodic discussion and dialogue session, free from anxiety and suspicion.
•Respect privacy between spouses.
•Words of love, affection and compassion that enhance reassurance.
In the end, here, dear wife, is this message:
Doubt is a fire that, if left, ignites, and if it is extinguished, life blossoms. Marital life is built on innocence, safety, honesty, and certainty. Not on doubts and suspicions.